When you pray for your kids, let out all your worries to God without watering it down. Those most at peace with their loss understand a profound truth that all parents should know: Your child has belonged to God from the beginning. But after going through the process of grief, some eventually come to a stage of acceptance. These parents obviously suffer tremendously. But maybe it’s better to look at things from the perspective of those who have lost their children to accident or illness. Some use this as fuel to increase their worry efforts even more. That’s the nature of life, and 100% prevention is impossible. Sooner or later, your kid will get sick or hurt. But if you attempt to engage with them at their level, as well as with sincerity about yourself, then they just might think twice. If you come at them with exaggerated fear, they’ll either copy your worry habits or simply tune you out. But dialog with your kids can help reduce them. No amount of worry will eliminate these possibilities. If children never learn the value of work and money, they’ll have a distorted view of the world for the rest of their lives.īut what if they get hooked on drugs or get (someone) pregnant?Īgain, risk and danger are real. You might think, “Well, once they get on their feet, then I won’t have to support them anymore.” We must accompany our kids as they learn to fend for themselves, but sometimes we end up supporting them too much.Ī young bird never expected to leave the nest will never appreciate the value – and joy – of flight. One common example is to constantly meet the financial needs of your child. This problem can even get handed down to our children’s children. Unnecessary suffering should be avoided, but when we don’t allow our kids to grow up, they end up suffering much more later. The more challenging question might be: Is my desire to avoid my kid’s suffering actually a desire to avoid my own suffering?
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In the school of life we grow when we learn how to navigate our trials. You don’t want to see them suffer, right? But at what cost? If your kid decided to be an attorney, would you buy a fake diploma to avoid the suffering that comes with law school? Of course not, but life is the same way. But does excessive worry help you? Exaggerated worry may lead your child to be paralyzed with anxiety now or later as an adult.
Identifying the source of your fears helps you manage them in a healthier way.Īs a parent, you’re responsible for the safety of your child. If you felt threatened all the time, then worry is a natural reaction. A toxic family environment may also have programmed worry into your personality.Īny type of trauma, abuse or neglect in your past has a profound impact on how you see the world today. On the other hand, if your parents were overprotective, you might be imitating their behavior.
For example, if your parents were divorced, this could be part of the reason you worry so much today. If you feel like you worry too much, it’s worth taking a look at your past for an explanation. But how do you cope with this in a healthy way? The dangers our children face can sometimes take on life-threatening, or at least life-changing, consequences. Let’s face it, the world is a dangerous place. But if you worry about your kids too much, you could be doing more harm than good. It’s normal to want to nurture and protect your child. Germs, accidents, college, drugs, sex… the list of worries for a parent these days seems to never end.
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